The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans (1996, Paperback, Expanded)

This is a great book. It explains how you get into an abusive relationship without knowing it. It is easy to read and very, very informative. Patricia gives you tips on how to handle situations. I have been in an abusive relationship for 5 years now and after reading this book and applying some of the tips on how to handle a situation my husband has stopped his verbal abuse.

Fabulous book that I've read several times and always buy for friends who are suffering in verbally abusiver relationships. The author identifies several types of verbal abuse, helps the reader to know when verbal abuse is occuring, and shows one how to handle the verbal abuser and put a stop to the abuse. After putting the principles in this book into practice over the last several years, I have improved my relationships with dozens of people and have become an expert at identifying and putting a stop to all forms of verbal abuse. This is an excellent resource!

I've needed this book..was recommended. A BLESSING! Everything made so much more sense! An absolute MUST for women who are in an abusive relationshp!

This book is terrific reading for those who may think, but aren't sure, if they are being verbally abused. Or great too, for those that want to learn more in depth about verbal abuse and what to do about it. Also touches on on how verbal abuse can often coincide with physical abuse. Very informative, eye opening and soul searching in a positive, step by step manner. Couldn't put the book down. Excellent reading!

Someone told me about this book and so I bought a copy of it for a family member who was going through a poor marriage. She enjoyed it so much that I bought 3 more copies for others that I know needed to read it . I still have not read it! I have a copy for myself now and do intend to read it . Great feedback from all the readers.

This book changed my life. I am recommending it to everyone I know. It helped me understand verbally abusive relationships and what to do if you're in one. I feel that even if you aren't married to a verbal abuser, you can benefit from reading this book because there are people in everyone's lives that are abusers. This book helped me understand their way of thinking, how to communicate with them, and why what I had tried wasn't working. I think a lot of people don't realize verbal abuse runs much deeper than name-calling, in the same way physical abuse is much deeper than hitting. I think a lot of people don't realize how subtle and manipulative and damaging it can be. This book brings all of this to light. I'm going to encourage my daughter to read it before she starts dating.

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This easy read flows with information that helps identify things we say and do that are more than just not nice things to say but they are abusive. When you realize you too might be guilty of verbal abuse and its not just the other person, the tendency is to take a step back, and look at self instead of pointing fingers, then can come healing. Best written book I've read on the subject. I've read many self help books. My grown son picked it up, quickly read 3 chapters and asked to take it home. He's going through a divorce and said the book was an eye-opener and helped him refrain from a problem when he talked to his wife the next time. My friend recommended the book on a bad day for me and it helped me see from a broader perspective that abusivenes starts with small words and the way we use them on each other. Fast, easy reading. SLL

This book really opened my eyes and my mind to a different perspective. I have reclaimed my confidence and self esteem through reading this. She has a very powerful insight, and it is well worth the read. Recommended by my therapist.

unbeatable price. thanks! i have nothing else to say. i thought that was sufficient but they want more characters so here they are. :D

This book was recommended to me by a friend that was having serious marital problems. I bought this on ebay because it was less than half price for the book. The book is written mostly from a woman's perspective and deals with the abuse that some spouses have tolerated during the course of their marraige/relationship. It deals with the reasons these abusive situations start, how the denial is a common feeling and how to deal with the problems. It is also a great book for the partner that is being abusive. I passed my copy along to someone that was being abusive so he could see how everything effects the entire family when one abusive relationship is passed along to another (as in your children's relationship) and so on. I really do recommend this book to anyone, whether it be a female or a male, that is suffering from any type of abuse in a relationship.

This book so clearly defines and explains the insidiousness of verbal abuse. It gives example after example in real life situations of the sadly common techniques that abusers use. Very helpful book for those you have been brainwashed over time.

I read this book from the standpoint of a verbal abuser of my child, (see the section on rageaholics). It is truly life transforming. I knew I was not right, but had no idea of the damage I was doing. It is helping me to break a terrible pattern and saving my daughter from further abuse and damage from me, her mother.

I was so rewarded by the author understanding exactly what I was going through each & every day. It was very gratifying & I felt not so alone. I wish, however, that there had been more "how to's". What I need are some dispassionate, pat responses.

This is a must-read for anyone who suffers from emotional abuse in any form. For those who are frustrated in a relationship but haven't yet identified the situation as abusive (because it is not physical or sexual), it will help them see what is really happening. Keep a highlighter handy while reading because there will be examples that will hit home. Ms Evans also goes on to teach skills for handling the abuse. I have given this book to several friends because it changed my life and hopefully can help them as well.

This one book completely changed my life. Pre-conditioned from childhood I was a great target for verbal abuse. Found myself sitting and not saying anything on the outside, but on the inside I was standing up screaming. Thanks to reading this book three times over the last seven years has helped me to learn my personal boundaries, where they are and how to protect them, and in doing so how to protect the spirit of life within me. It taught me how to deal with verbal abuse enabling me to stay married to the same man for 25 years. In the process of changing myself it has forced my husband to change as well. We are a lot happier and have a much healthier relationship. I recommend this book for any young woman. If for no other reason than to help others who may not recognize verbal abuse. Identifying the problem is half the battle. Knowing the right thing to do in a given situation helps give you the resolve you need to stand your ground and do the right thing.

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