Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul T. Mason, Randi Kreger (1998, Paperback)

For the first time in over 30 years, I have received insight and tools to address, powerfully, the issue of "BPDs" in my life. This book is plainly written for anyone to read, while giving some fairly clinical information. Is this book a "magic pill"? No. Borderline Personality Disorder is one of the most frustrating and complex conditions from which one can suffer (not to mention insufferable for those of us who love someone battling the disorder). But STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS will give you tremendous understanding of BPD, what the sufferer experiences, and how to live peacefully with yourself and others, as you deal with this issue in the life of someone you love or know. An A+ recommendation here. Thanks for listening. I dedicate this journey for understanding to my dad, someone with BPD.

I actually ordered this for a friend who was literally walking on eggshells everytime she spoke to her husband and from what she decribed, to me, it sounded like he had alot of the symptoms described in this book. I am really glad that I got it for her because as soon as she started reading it she realized her husband did have most of the symptoms and she also realized that it wasent her fault and that he was being verbally abusive to her due to his own issues. She has stopped beating herself up.
She is still with him, trying to help him through his problems, he is still being abusive at times (verbally) but she has learned to defuse him and she has learned to walk away from him when he goes on a tear but most importantly she has learned that SHE cannot change him and its nothing that SHE has done wrong which has given her new strength.
She really recommends this book

The book is great about discussing the side of the person with BPD, but fails to recognize completely how incredibly difficult and stressful it can be to have to deal with the BPD person on a daily basis. The book spends 75% of its time being sympathetic to the BPD person, instead of spending more time on explaining to others how to deal with a BPD loved one. Furthermore, some of their suggestions are not possible, i.e. ending contact with the BPD person. When the BPD person is a close relative, like a mother, father, sister or brother, ending contact isn't always an option. Furthermore they underestimate the BPD's manipulative abilities to guilt trip people into maintaining contact. Seems to me that this book was written more for persons living with BPD themselves than a person learning to deal with a BPD loved one.

I have an adult daughter who has Borderline Personality Disability.
This book was a perfect read for me I read it through in one setting, then went back and reread. It was so helpful to me for understanding the disorder. The book is wonderfully written. Recommend it highly.

After living with my BPD husband for 14 years, this book finally made me realize that I can't get angry with him, but setting proper boundaries and keeping the focus on the main issues is critical to our success as a couple. We have a much better relationship, although I know I'm in for rough bumps ahead, I can manage with some of the information this book has revealed to me.

very helpful book-enjoyed reading it. got a lot from it. have shared it with others who were very greatful to get it.

This book is by far the best and most complete reference guide for diagnosing, understanding and coping with people who have Borderline Personality Disorder that I have found so far. There is an abundance of complete and useful information in this book, as well as proven techniques for dealing with loved ones who have this devastating disorder. Owning SWOE has helped me immensely and I recomment it to anyone who is in any kind of relationship with someone who has BPD or deals with them on a regular basis. Honestly, I don't know how I survived my relationship with my BPD before reading this book, it's amazing.

This book is written for people who love someone who has a borderline personality. Great tips on how not to be the victim and fall into the traps that a borderline personality individual unknowingly sets for you in order to make themselves "feel better" about their own insecurities.

I bought this book because I needed to understand from a practical perspective how to deal with someone that suffers from Border Line Personality Disorder.
There is quite a bit of literature out there that explains what the disorder is, granted from a dry clinical side, However this books bridges the gap for those of us that are Non BPD trying to understand and cope with those suffering from BPD without minimizing the experience for both sides.

After spending almost three years trying to escape a "functional" Borderline after three more years of trying to be understanding, tolerant and sympathetic to a manipulative, controlling, jealous, abusive "borderline" I found myself wishing that I had read this six years ago.

Reading this with six years of 20/20 hindsight made the hundreds of seemingly random, bizarre behavior that seemed to go in all directions like shards of glass turn into clear pieces to a puzzle. My previous assumptions that this borderline was bipolar seemed to be that piece to the puzzle that should fit and even will fit if you force it but then BPD became that right piece fitting perfectly.

It is surprisingly satisfying to find out that even if I were a trained professional in the psychiatric profession, I still would have been in over my head. Since Borderlines are "master manipulators" who project their own behavior on people around them, it is easy to fall into trap after trap of wondering what could have been done and you can find yourself in constant no-win situations and wondering what you are doing to cause this whacked out behavior.

While I might disagree with some of the conclusions, i would consider this book a Godsend that I believe everyone who reads it will wish that they would have read it sooner.

Having been married to a man with BPD, whom I divorced 27 years ago, I still find it interesting to read about this disorder. A friend is recently divorced from a woman with BPD and said he found the book great reading...helped him understand...suggested I buy it.

THIS BOOK WAS A REQUIRED READING ASSIGNMENT GIVEN TO MY DAUGHTER BY HER THERAPIST. IT HAS HELPED HER TO REGAIN SOME OF THE CONFIDENCE & SELF ESTEEM THAT 'HE' STOLE FROM HER OVER A 4 YEAR PERIOD. SHE IS A SMART GIRL BUT WANTED TO MAKE THINGS WORK FOR THE SAKE OF THEIR CHILD. THEY ARE BOTH HAPPIER & HEALTHIER SINCE MOVING OUT & DISTANCING THEMSELVES FRON 'HIM'.

I was asked to read this book by a friend. It is a well written book describing certain behaviors. The book speaks about the self perception of the person preforming the behavior and the effects of that behavior on other. It also speaks to the needs of the other people being affected by the behavior.

Worth reading.

my book came in a timely manner. and the book was in the condition as described. thanks so much. i love the book.

I like the concept but the information was common knowledge to someone who lives with someone with BPD

I always thought that my ex-boyfriend was looney... this book gives a name (BPD) and an explanation for his lunacy.

great price-fast shipping - excellent condition-passed ont to another party for reference-bought it due to price, suggested by a friend....great buy.....................................................

As a counselor, I recommend this book to people coping with family members who suffer with borderline personality disorder or similar kinds of traits. Most find it very helpful.

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This is a good book to help those with family members with Borderline Personality Disorder. I decided to buy it as I am one who needs the help!

After reading the book, which I found very difficut.A child of a borderline mother.i think it is more for the B.P.s. I did not find it helpful as The Borderline Mother.(I bought it on here.) Happy Day to you!

I bought the book on a recommendation from a counselor. The book gave me helpful insight on how to adjust my reactions with the love one who has some of the characteristics of boarderline personality disorder.

I appreciate being able to offer a bid and it being accepted. I was expecting a new book but received a used book and it was still in good shape (even with highlighted areas).Thanks!

I bought it because I know someone with borderline personality disorder. I ordered it a second time to give to a friend whose husband may also suffer from this. Both books came at a timely fashion and were in excellent condition.