Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish (1998, Paperback, Expanded)

This book provides excellent insight into the dynamics of the relationship between siblings. Parents are quick to place children into roles, even unintended negative roles, and children often end up blaming the sibling for their discontent as a result. This book gives good advice on how to relate to each child as an individual and help that child feel special for what is unique about them, not for the roles that we put them into.

My children are only 3 1/2 and 2 and already show signs of rivalry...with the advice in this book, I've been able to start the process of helping them learn how to learn to get along with each other and have respect in their relationship...not just being nice to their sibling because I say so.

My only slight disappointment with this book is that because it stresses communication, it is naturally geared towards children who are more verbal - at least 3 years and up. So I could have used a little more advice on getting my 2 year old involved in this process, but in the meantime, I'm working with his sister to develop a good relationship between the two. As he becomes more verbal, we'll already be heading in the right direction to have a loving and respectful relationship between them.

I definitely recommend this book to anyone with more than one child, even if they already mostly get along!