The Rules by Ellen Fein (1996, Paperback, Reissue)

Since I've recently started dating again, I thought I could use some help, so I bought a few books. This book was one of them.

I'd heard good and bad things about it, but I wanted to be open minded. I will agree that the book can seem a bit "contrived" and manipulative, but the concept is basically to allow a man to chase you and not just give in the first time a guy looks your way. The thrill of the hunt is part of the game.

I have to say that I also bought the book, "He's just not that into you" as well by Greg Bernhard? and although the style is different, the message is nearly identical. If a man is into you, then he'll chase you. Anything less than that, move on and look elsewhere.

I'd hoped that I wouldn't have to play games when I started dating. Either you hit it off or you don't. You like each other and you start to build a relationship or you don't feel it and you move on. I don't think I'm keen enough to play by "The Rules" all the time. I think the advice is great, but I am hoping for something less complicated.

I'll admit though, that if you were desperate for a man and you follow their instructions to the letter, I can see that you will be able to date with a purpose. My concern is that after the "HUNT", make sure you still build your foundation on love and respect.