His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley Jr. (1986, Hardcover)

Whether you're thinking about getting married, are a newlywed, or have been married for years this book is made for relationships. In our first year of marriage we saw things that was leading us to divorce, reading His Needs, Her Needs, helped us understand that we were not alone in our feelings and that our feelings were okay to have. The best part is it helped us to put our feelings in perspective and gave us ways to deal with issues that seemed difficult to resolve. A recommended read for all levels of relationships.

this book saved my marriage! if you are on the rocks and you don't know how to fix it, get this and any other book by this author. very clear and practical instructions!!! the reason why me and my best friend still have the same last name.-kimbala44137@yahoo.com

This book is helpful providing some basic gender-based differences that apply to many men and women. However, it is overgeneralized in some ways and not particularly in depth. For instance, it states that men like to do things so women need to join men in their activities (i.e. sports) - however, this may or may not be as easy or as fun as the author glibly states. It may be helpful if a couple needs a general idea of what might make their partner more enthused about the relationship.

This book is very informative for the type of book it is...would recommend if you feel you are in this type of situation.

I bought this book to give to my newly married grandson and his wife. It presents the basic needs of the husband and of the wife and helps each to understand how meeting these needs cements the relationship and lays a foundation for a good strong marriage, in which each is fulfilled.

This book is one of the very best I've ever read on marriage and relationships. Instead of a whole bunch of complicated mumbo jumbo, this author breaks a persons needs into 10 categories, and while they may not be "exact" for each individual, they do hit the mark most of the time. This is a book I have bought for many people and think it is one of the best tools to not only recover from a down turn in your relationship, but also to prevent problems from occuring in the future.

I like it. It is a very easy read and it brings forth all of those obvious aspects that we tend to forget in a relationship. People have different needs. Understanding their basic needs and attending to them is what will make them happy. If you are concerned with their needs and they're concerned with yours, both parties are happy. A very simple premise, that tends to get lost in our day-&-age.
I do however feel that at times, it can be slightly onesided. It seems to hit the fellows a bit harder than the ladies. For example, he puts the men responsible for attending to the women's affection needs and then it even seems to blame the men for not getting their own sexual needs met (due to being negligent with foreplay, clumsly, unskilled lovers, not giving of affection, etc.). The book tends to slap them on the wrist more often for any short comings on their part while not being as harsh with women. We're told, they need sex but then he goes straight to the men to tell them what they may be doing wrong to not properly engage us (women). Now, that being said, I do indeed agree him, but that is something that could be met with a bit of resistance depending on how open your male partner is to receiving criticism (however constructive it may be).

This book is a must have for ANYONE in a relationship (good, bad or ugly) It can change your marriage if allowed.

This book can save a marriage or start a new marriage off right. Every couple should be required to read it before marrying.

Excellent so far. We're only in the 2nd chapter, but it hits good points. It speaks to the man and the woman. Others, who have recommended this book to me ranted and raved about it. So, I can't wait to read more.

I DON'T KNOW THE REASON WHY I DIDN'T RECEIVE THE BOOK YET SO I CAN'T GIVE ANY REVIEW PARTICULARLY ABOUT THIS BOOK.HOPE FULLY IT IS ON THE WAY OR THERE IS MAILING PROBLEM.TO CONFORM MY ADDRESS ; DEREJE BEFEKADU
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This book is great for a marriage that needs help. Why do they act that way, and what do we do about it. Or if you're trying to put the pieces back together and not divorce.

I have heard this is an excellent book to help strengthen marriages. I bought this book for my daughter and son-in-law. She seems to really like it. She told me that there is alot of information to help their marriage. I found it on e-bay for a fantastic price. In the stores I would have paid 15 to 20 dollars for this book. I got it for 5.95 and that included shipping. I love shopping on e-bay. I recommend e-bay to everyone.

This is a must read for anyone in a serious relationship. Especially married or engaged couples. It gives a simple recipe that is proven for a lifelong happy marriage.

Fast shipping. Got what I paid for. Good Seller. The book was in good condition and I was pleased with it. I got this book as a referral from a doctor and this seller had it for a good price. Thanks!

Excellent theory and information. My friend loaned me her copy of this book and it was so good, I wanted to buy a copy for my son and his girlfriend to use. I would recommend it to anyone who wants to improve the quality of their relationship.

I have read this book several years ago and it helped my marriage so much that I ordered copies for my sister and her husband who have had anything but a successful marriage. I believe that if a couple reads and acts on this books information they can work through any problems in their marriage.

Excellent rating

This book provides many anecdotes as examples of how men and women should and often do not relate well to each other's emotional needs within a marriage. If that is how you learn best, by example, you may want to read this book.

However, I feel there is too much emphasis placed on the potential and reasons for anyone to have an affair. It feels like reading chapter after chapter of a bad soap opera. Not all marital problems lead to marital affairs. Sometimes the "infidelity" is another activity, such as golf, bowling, too frequent dinner parties, even church can be a form of infidelity. Lynette Hoy defined Infidelity as any activity that detracts from and takes priority over the marriage. I found the incessant references and implication that emotional neglect within a marriage ALWAYS leads to extramarital affairs to be distasteful and unnecessary.

There is just as much - and maybe more - helpful marriage and relationship advice available free on the internet. Save your money and try out Dr. Harley's own web site for starters, http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ and overlook the sales pitch for the book. If you've already read and understood John Gray or Gary Smalley, you probably don't need this book.

Great, basic ,easy to read book for any couple wanting to understand what's important to their partner. I was refered to it by a friend. A good relationship book. Whether 1986 or 2007, the needs of most men and women remain the same. Would make a wonderful wedding gift.

Very honest and truthful seller. The book arrived in a timely fashion. I would definitely recommend this seller and this book.

I havent quite read all of it, but so far the book has been very beneficial to my understanding of my relationship!

Dr. Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs is right on target when explaining the difference in the way men & women think, behave & respond to each other. He zeros in how to comunicate with each other so that we can meet each others most important needs, which in return will build "love units" in our partners "love bank" resulting in a long lasting, happy, committed relationship. I think every married couple and any couple thinking about getting married or entering into a long term relationship should read it. It will only improve your love for one another.

This book was absolutely incredible. It gave me so much good information - and also gave my husband good information on how to make our marriage stronger. This book should honestly be required reading before you get married. I highly highly recommend it. It was recommended to me by one of the prestigious marriage counselors in the capital where I live, and I'm so glad he gave me this recommendation. Buy one now and help strengthen (or save) your marriage.

My son had a copy of this book and I started reading it. Mr Harley really has a handle on building an affair proof marriage. I bought another one for my pastor because he does alot of counseling. It gave me a lot of insight on how to meet a husbands needs and bring harmony into the marriage. Wish I would have had this when I first got married. I was clueless! I just thought I could do it like my mom and dad did. It didn't work. Of course you have to do your part and that is drop your pride and heed what it says in order to be able to apply what you read. Sincerely Judy