Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix (2001, Paperback, Reprint)

I am a psychology mayor so I have read my fair share of books. Never, however, have I read anything like Harville's book. It has taught me a new way of viewing not only my patient's lives, but mainly mine. He taught me ways of discovering hidden things about my self from birth to my adult life, as well as how to guide others into doing the same. He gives the directions to the exercises he himself would conduct during a therapy session. I have looked up the "Imago therapy"- which is what this book is about, and have actually enlisted myself for a seminar. That is how much this book has changed my perspective on everything, and I know it will do the same for you. This is a book everyone should read, whether you're in a relationship or not. This book will teach you about how your children are affected with your actions, how to commence in a good relationship, how we choose our partners and how to choose the "right" one, what to do with a failing marriage, and what to do when it is at its peak. All of those things plus much more are explained in full detail. This book is guaranteed to touch whatever it is that you are going through.

Very helpful book if you are dealing with past issues that you are unable to resolve. Gives you the opportunity to look inside yourself and focus or your issues instead of everyone else's. It is an inspirational
book that teaches you to grow and move on from the past.

This book is absolutely necessary reading for ANYONE in a long term relationship, marriage or otherwise. It is full of revelations! Not only will you understand many of the situations you are going through are fairly universal...you will understand WHY you and your partner react and behave as you do. There are exercises to go through...so it is an excellent launching point for any couple hesitant to go to therapy together.

I'd seen the author on TV and was fascinated by the theory he proposes that we are attracted to partners who have both positive and negative qualities of those who raised us. The book explains this well but is written at a fairly clinical level. Not always easy to read but very understandable if you stick with it.

This book was recommended to me by a marriage counselor. I haven't started reading it yet, but if she thought it was an excellent book, she probably knows what she is talking about.