Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control by B. Bryan Post, Heather T. Forbes (2006, Paperback, Illustrated)

This book is one of the definitive works on parenting traumatized children. These would be children whose behavior goes way beyond 'bratty' behavior. If you have a child who's been diagnosed with anything like Reactive Attachment Disorder, Attachment Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, ADHD, anything like that, I highly recommend this book. If you are the parent of a child that you adopted from the foster care system or from a foreign country and you can't figure out why your child is behaving the way that he or she does, you need this book.

What I like about this approach is that first, they explain to you why your children are the way they are. They let you know that your child's misbehavior, their tendencies to do things that you just don't understand, are not born of evil intentions on the child's part. They let you know that the he** you've been going through isn't because your child is inherently bad. And that is such a relief! Because once you know this, you know there is hope for your child and for you as their parent.

After the explain to you why your child is how he or she is, they provide strategies on how to deal with seven very common behavioral issues that children of trauma often exhibit. Their strategies are very calm, cool, and collected. I have used some of these and the result was less stress for me and less stress for my child.

I decided to buy this book after reading many, many positive reviews of the book from parents of attachment-disordered children through list-servs that I am on. If you are the parent of an attachment-disordered or a traumatized child, you need this book but please remember that you also need support. I'm so thankful that this book exists. It's worth every penny.