100 Simple Secrets of Great Relationships by David Niven Ph.D. (2003, Paperback)

The Simple Science of Relationships

What are the essential qualities of a great relationship? Scientists and academics have spent entire careers investigating the nature of relationships, dating, and marriage, yet their findings are inaccessible to ordinary people, hidden in obscure journals read only by other academics. Now the bestselling author of The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People and The 100 Simple Secrets of Successful People has collected the most current and significant data from more than a thousand studies on relationships, and spells out the key findings in plain English.

The advice is not based on one person's unique experiences or opinions, but offers for the first time the research of noted scientists studying the lives and loves of average Americans. Each of the hundred core findings is accompanied by a true story that shows the results in action.

• Love is hard to calculate. Researchers have proven that a partner's age, income, education, and religion are not related to the likelihood of relationship satisfaction.
• Always trying to win can lead to a major loss. People who feel a sense of competition with their partner are 37 percent less likely to feel that their relationship is satisfying.
• Leave the past in the past. More than 40 percent of people report that jealousy over a previous relationship is a source of disagreement in their current relationship.